Overheard at China Inn Bistro
GPG: He told me he didn't think any of his friends were good enough for me. And that I chew men up and spit them out.
Baby Brother: Well, you are fiery...
GPG: I'm not discounting that. But I never asked him to set me up with any of his friends! I never even asked if he had any single friends. Married people usually don't.
BB: Doesn't matter. Men are scared of women like you.
GPG: Bullshit.
BB: No. You're too confident.
GPG: That's a problem?
I mean, seriously? It is? I want to hear from the men on this, please.
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well, confident women usually means headstrong and/or dominant women, and a lot of guys want to be the "strong" one in a relationship.
now, i know from a female friend of mine that there are definitely guys out there who want a woman to, er, "dominate" them. if you're into that kind of thing there are plenty of guys out there for you ;)
I don't think so. I have always been confident, especially during courtship. I definitely don't consider hubby to be the kind of guy that likes to be dominated. I'd say there's equal power play between me and hubster. I think strong men like strong women. I am also a hopeless romantic so you can discount my opinion!
I like that Julie is confident. Hell, she just kicked some ass on my behalf with our sleepy employment agency. But that's generally how we work--I apologize to people and keep her from blowing up too much and she gets really mad when necessary. I s'pose it's an opposite in some ways.
...maybe I'm confusing 'confidence' and 'temper' in the above comment. Hmm. DEEP QUESTIONS!
Anyway, I like confident women. But I'd imagine a guy who'd downed two drinks and given himself a fie minute pep talk to say hi might have some problems.
p.s. where are my questions! I demand instant service!! ;)
99% of what all men say is bullshit. We do this to avoid conflict and to avoid getting into deeper, time-consuming conversations we want no part of.
Confident is okay. Being pushy, unflexible and over-demanding is an erection kill. Sometimes it can be a tricky balance.
Confidence is hot, overconfidence is not, for either sex. I'm with you and call bullshit too. You have too much going for you...most guys can't handle that. Their ego gets in the way.
So to answer your question, no it's not a problem. It's natural selection at work, weeding out all the guys who can't hang.
I'm not a man (obvi), but I am going to echo a few sentiments above. Men don't want a strong woman to run the show; there's a degree of machismo in every man. I find that either every man wants to lead or be lead. The majority want to lead. Sucks for us women who want to share; sharing works for a very few strong, secure, well-adjusted men.
Someone pointed out to me that saying things like "I need a man to be able to drink me under the table--and I drink tequila" probably doesn't help.
Then again, 2 shots and I'm done for, so...
I agree with IDigHootchAndCootch
Confidence is not a problem. But inflexibility and lack of compromise is.
I'm definitely confident, and I'll admit I'm a bit demanding. Comes from being a hot-blooded Latina. But I know that I'm not inflexible.
And I definitely do need a man to dominate me. I like to be put in my place.
you can be as confident as you like, just don't talk to me until after 10am
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